Josiane

Maybe try to help people see the other person’s perspective? It really helps to put yourself in someone else’s shoes but, I think, people are not very good at it. They mostly just see how ‘they’ feel and how ‘they’ think. Often talking to people feels like I’m talking to a wall, like what I’m saying is not even getting through… I’m in a healthy long-term relationship, and I think part of the reason why we still get along is because I’m willing to do that (my partner is capable of doing this also). If we argue I will take the time to try to understand them. I might still judge them at first and feel upset (and assume the worse like they’re being selfish or not a good person), but if I discuss it and take the time to try to understand them and where their actions are coming from, the upset feeling usually dissipates. I was angry with them because I didn’t fully understand why they behaved in a certain way. Once it’s clarified, there’s an aha moment and I can understand their actions better.

Relationships can be hard because everyone has their own way of making sense of things, or of doing things. People really don’t understand each other very well, you kind of have to take the time to do it. If you’re dealing with someone who’s not willing to see your side, then I’m afraid you’re out of luck. :(

I don’t think so, a lot of people dislike each other.

Isn’t it also a depressant? Also I think they found out that it doesn’t actually make people more productive.

Wouldn’t that mean that it’s caused by stress? Stress causes so many problems.

Thanks for sharing this. How about just saying ‘Will you just shut up?’ :D

Of course I’m kidding… :-/ I mean it’s something I would like to say but probably wouldn’t. :D

It makes sense to not encourage the conversation to continue. I would probably just make up an excuse, lie to them, tell them I have to go now, to the bathroom or whatever. But it’s amazing how some people are so unaware of themselves…

I think it’s a technique called labeling, it does help. It kind of objectifies your feelings. It gives you some distance from it, instead of being overwhelmed by it. Did you also try journaling? Or guided meditations?