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I have increased the REWARD to $30,000 USD for any individual that comes forward with information that will allow for the prosecution of the individuals involved in the persistent harassment that I have experienced over the last 10+ years. Disgruntled employee of my ex-wife's attorney? Former employee of the offending private investigation firm? Send me an email here, including some proof that you have this information, and I will connect you with my attorney to help process this information and allow you to claim your reward. We will keep all this information in strict confidence.

Included in these posts, you will find one story about a mom's journey to make the life of her child's father as difficult as possible. These are journals that date back to the beginnings of the relationship between mom and dad, prior to our daughter's birth, and after. Some of these posts have events that are being written by memory, and by revisiting old emails or court documents of incidences in the past.

Many of these posts focus on issues where hindsight proves to be 20/20. Issues and red flags that I should have noticed, that bring you to that moment where the pieces of the puzzle finally come together. The dates might be off, but the general message is clear.

I'm also going to include some guidance letters to my daughter on the world and relationships.

I never want our daughter to ever have to see my postings, and I'll do everything in my power not to let her see them. A lot of people gave my daughter's mom power, that it went straight to her head. The days are far from that sweet woman I thought I knew. Her mother's ability to step away from the harassment, both in court, and by private investigators, and the brainwashing of our daughter, to allow a loving father the ability to love his child peacefully and uninterrupted, is what is key here.

I'm ashamed and embarrassed that we probably have one of the largest family court dockets in Southern California. I've heard Judges say it takes two to tango. I've heard attorneys tell me I should be a better man and accept the abuse she shovels out to me. I'm here to tell you that it only takes one bad parent to create this mess we're in. I've tried everything in my power to offer an olive branch of peace and what I've realized is that whenever I show weakness in that fashion, she attacks even more with an almost religious fervor.

Harassment is not something fun to deal with. I have been dealing with harassment for the duration of my daughter’s life. It has caused me great pain and suffering. There have been times that I could not be the best person or the best father that I could be, because of it. I'm not making excuses. This is absolute fact.

I encourage any parent that has problems with a difficult ex with either a daughter or son to post here.

Dear Daughter, I've done everything in my power to stay in your life. I will continue to try and do so. I love you.

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Dear Daughter - I Am So Sorry My Daughter - I Have Filed For Divorce (self.deardaughter)

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Dear Daughter,

I love you unconditionally, my little angel. As you grow, you'll blossom into a beautiful girl and later, a wonderful woman. Your intelligence and achievements, like walking and speaking, fill me with pride. However, your mom and I are facing significant challenges. It's with deep sadness that I must tell you things have worsened considerably. I've had to file for divorce because your mother wasn't working on our marriage. I hoped this action might motivate her to contribute to our relationship, aiming to rebuild our family. But her indifference frustrates me.

A few weeks ago, your grandfather visited, hoping to mend our relationship. He soon realized our issues weren't as simple as fixing a broken door. Before his visit, your mom and I had an argument, and she rushed to tell him I was abusive, escalating the situation. I asked your grandfather to leave, feeling overwhelmed by frustration towards him and your mom and her accusations. They seem alike, and I'm upset with your mother for falsely accusing me of things to my family. I've always been respectful, but I also stand up for what I believe in when I see things that are wrong. Her accusations are frustrating and unnecessary. After he left, I found myself clearing out old clothes from my closet, something I've only done once before under similar stress. When your mom saw this, she cried like never before. I comforted her, but my patience had waned, marking a turning point in our relationship.

Since filing for divorce, your mom has changed, exhibiting the abusive behavior she accused me of. She's moved to your grandparents' and limited my time with you. Concerned about her unpredictability, I sought advice from the Irvine Police and my attorney, but received little help. Speaking to both women, I felt that my voice and pleads with them went unheard. Her behavior makes me suspect she's planning something malicious. Despite my extensive childcare training, she undermines my ability to care for you, like when she abruptly stopped me from bathing you. She pulled you out of my arms to tell me that the water was too hot, despite me checking and double checking it with a thermometer. When my brother and his family visited, she scared your cousins with her aggressive behavior, so much that they hid behind your uncle to protect them. I've had to let many things slide without questioning her behavior, but my patience is growing very thin for her antics.

Furthermore, your mom seems to know details of my private phone conversations with my attorney, friends, and family. She's accurate about what I've discussed, raising questions about how she's obtaining this information and breaching my right to privacy.

I'm hoping we can curtail what feels like a runaway train, but I don't have much confidence in that, and, it seems like it would take a miracle to fix our situation.

I love you so much, my little angel. You are so beautiful.

Love,
Your Dad

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[–] safetyaccount1 1 points 9 months ago

For all concerned parties. I have no intention on divulging any of this information to my daughter, unless there is some reason that she needs to know the truth. I'm not asking for much and I'm just looking to live out the rest of my life in peace while giving you what you want.