I agree. Having a natural tendency to want to solve a problem makes us want to fix it immediately but sometimes it's not the answer, when they just want to vent or someone to listen.

[–] crashoverride 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)

There's only so many times I'm willing to listen and not want to fix it. After about the 10th or or 50th or 100th time I've heard the same problem and I'm always willing to listen, but if you're not willing to take one inch towards fixing it or solving it or dealing with it or moving past it, then I'm going to try the fucking fix it for you.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

There’s only so many times you can drop a bag of trash in my living room before I either take it to the dumpster, or tell you to take it home.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Until their shawarma falls apart every day and they never get past the feelings stage....

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Time for them to head out to pasture

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Relevant Parks and Recreation

[–] lgmjon64 35 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I ask my wife and kids if they need someone to help problem solve or just listen. It's been a game changer.

[–] CluckN 24 points 11 months ago (1 children)

“Is this the feeling stage” to me feels like, “are you ready to here solutions or are you going to keep complaining?”.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 11 months ago (1 children)

The idea is sound but the wording needs work.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

There's no ordering to the ways it's worded. It doesn't say "ready for solutions yet?" Or "are you still having feelings".