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I always make hard eye contact because woman say that guys always look down at their boobs and I've caught myself doing that exact thing.
I actually do this as well because I've been told so much about guys looking at boobs when talking to women. I make extra effort to keep eye contact. So because of that I've been told "it's intense." That's from people that know me so that is probably the polite version.
No matter what you do, it's wrong. Thus we revert to rule 1 and 2; be attractive
Hold on, you messed up the rules. 2 is don't be unattractive.
Oh damn, that's why I'm not getting any chicks
You also have to break eye contact periodically. Body language is complex.
I find small breasts the most attractive, but sometimes large breasts are just so eye-catching that you can't not look at them, especially when a large proportion of the surface area is not covered. It's especially annoying to have women offended by this when it's not even my thing.
I feel like making hard eye contact would be creepy so I just don't look at women. Wow that sounds terrible, more I just look at the ground while walking and don't look at anyone. Hmmm, not sure that's an improvement...
So you can either come off as a creep for looking at her boobs or come off as a creep for making eye contact. The game is fucking rigged.
You make it sound like the only two possible places to look at are their eyes and their chest. Hmm.
I don't want anyone to learn about my foot fetish, which is why I just stare at my phone's home screen or at a nearby window.
I think I'm starting to realize why I don't have a real social life.
Well, it's hard to see their butt from the front...
times like this i wish i was mr fantastic. just pop the head up and over in the middle of a conversation
In addition to things others have said in reply, maintaining eye contact is a direction given in speech and leadership classes. Looking at someone you are talking to shows interest, engagement, and respect. It would be weird in a different way if you were speaking to someone and just staring at their hands or staring off into space. It's not that there are two options, but if you're having a conversation with someone, it's normal to be looking at them.
While I get the point you're trying to make, the only normal place to look at when talking to someone is their face, which is kinda small, and the two parts of the face that convey emotion are the eyes and mouth.