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js was a mistake

something

the most concerning part for me is the "LA woman" charge... is that just a restaurant?

this is something that has always bothered me... I never found the appeal in that and, of course, was pressured by social circles to join in on clubs and similar. this just feels like the most stupid waste of time, as I can't find any enjoyment on it, and when I watch others doing it they surely look weird and lost in a way. specially the ones I know personally and can attest to their intellect and rational.

eventually I stopped joining them but it kept intriguing me. after reading about it and having long conversations with friends, my conclusion is that this is some left over form of primitive sexual bonding that predates complex speech and became instinctual, a la some "mating dance" ritual. particularly, some more enlightened male friends see that as a "necessary evil" to have sex while others simply never gave me a clear answer (probably don't ask themselves much and just abide by the social rules). the only thing I could pull from females has been a dismissing "I just like to dance".

so much so that I could (anecdotally at least) observe very repeatable patterns such as: single couple that eventually meets in a party then stops going, girl that simultaneously loses interest in their partner and gains interest in clubbing which ends up in "someone new" popping up, etc.

as for myself, I can't really explain the lack of drive. I know for sure I'd rather communicate using actual language and not be in crowded, dark places moving my body aimlessly, faking enjoyment. needless to say, this stance heavily lowers one's chance to mate, as the whole paradigm revolves around it (at least outside of the dreadful online dating world). so sometimes it can take years for me to develop a new relationship after one has ended. fun fact is that every single one of my girlfriends loved to dance, some even took classes on artistic styles and whatnot.

tldr: I agree

mates used to do that, tastes worse and it's a bit disgusting (that creepy black oil 🤢)

been 6 years for me. it lasted a long time but their shadow fades away eventually. I'm living in peace now

stay strong, survivor

yeah. I have the feeling that this story is way too common. which is very telling of how much the system isn't driven towards innovation as many claim. we brag a lot about human ability to pass down knowledge via written language and turns out that most information passed down on some of the highest tech industries is done verbally or not at all! lol

yep, agreed will all of that

in any case, I never been somewhere where this is properly done to the letter (from an individual's or managerial's perspective). not that I REALLY care tbf, I just do my part to the best of my knowledge and fly away hehe

sharing actual text makes it searchable and easier to archive for the future

[-] thunderbox666 « 1 point 2 months ago

Pretty much any subdomain will go to the nginx server and it will only do something if youve configured that subdomain in the config - everything else just gets ignored, or you can setup a catchall to handle all the unconfigured stuff

so you will need something like this (might not be exact, been a long time since i had to configure NGINX haha)

server {
server_name ha.mydomain.duckdns.org;
location / {
proxy_pass http://hostnameOrIP1:port1;
}
}
server {
server_name nextcloud.mydomain.duckdns.org;
location / {
proxy_pass http://hostnameOrIP2: port
}
}

an easier way would be to use Nginx Proxy Manager which gives you a nice GUI to add and manage all the sites.

[-] thunderbox666 « 1 point 2 months ago Anything that has a web service, such as nextcloud or home assistant, can be setup on a domain or sub domain

So you would setup the domain (for example let's say you have myhome. duckdns.org) to point to your server running nginx reverse proxy, and then configure all your services in there

So you might setup homeassistant.myhome.duckdns.org and point it to the internal address you use for home assistant, eg http://192.168.1.15:8123

Then you might add nextcloud as nextcloud.myhome.duckdns.org to point to https://192.168.1.15 These can all be on the same machine as nginx reverse proxy or on another machine all together

Some of these services might also need extra configuration but most will also have guides on their site on what you need to configure to work with a reverse proxy