DrVader

joined 1 year ago
[–] DrVader 2 points 1 year ago

To me dactyl keebs never look good, but man this thing is gorgeous. Daresay, elegant

[–] DrVader 4 points 1 year ago

Seconded - been trying out jitsi at work and I've been really impressed

[–] DrVader 2 points 1 year ago

That's a very good point. Must my dev work doesn't involve a Windows server except for interacting with AD, I forget winget has that limitation. Hopefully they add that feature soon!

[–] DrVader 2 points 1 year ago

I've cried laughing at this show so many times

[–] DrVader 1 points 1 year ago

That's an incredible resource! Thanks!

[–] DrVader 3 points 1 year ago

I think I will do that. Maybe she'll say yes!

[–] DrVader 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Taskmaster!

[–] DrVader 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I've been a huge winget fanboy for a while now. I liked chocolatey prior to that, but it works so well with the os - which makes sense cuz it's from Microsoft.

[–] DrVader 3 points 1 year ago

Thanks, I really appreciate that

[–] DrVader 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I love that idea! I could see that working!

[–] DrVader 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Ya, I used to see one at the onset of COVID. I need to find a new one now that we've moved. Thanks :)

[–] DrVader 5 points 1 year ago

As a teenager I didn't conform to her will without question, I asked questions and pushed back on decisions if it didn't make sense to me. I'm positive I was rude very often, but the only physical interaction was her hitting me - I didn't do more than be a smart ass trying to understand things. Which honestly was a pain for her to deal with, I wish I hadn't been so difficult for her.

Ultimately I think I was hard to parent because of my ADHD which want diagnosed till later. Having a kid of my own with ADHD I see how hard it is to parent a neurodivergent child if you're unaware of their needs in that regard.

So as far as her fear, I dunno what she fears of me or if she does fear me. It could just be a knee jerk reaction of hers to limit interaction with me. Maybe she's afraid of acknowledging our bad relationship or things she's done?

 

we've been no contact with my family on and off for a while - we were able to use covid and my daughter's premature birth as a scapegoat (which honestly was a worry anyways), but we've been starting to try and attend family events more now that my parents have grandkids other than my own kids. Having more in-laws and grand kids has seemed to help them mellow out a bit.

To over simplify, my mom and I've never gotten along. I know I have a lot of blame for that from when I was a kid / teenager, and I think my mom has some unresolved challenges of her own from her dad abusing her as a kid. That being said, as a Father of a few kids myself, the idea of my kids eliminating their relationship with me kills me inside, and I gotta think my mom feels similarly - I hope so at least. I've tried reaching out a few times a few different ways, trying to talk about things I know she loves - old Abbott and Costello movies, good food, baseball, etc. I feel like I'm talking to a wall - and at family events we do go to, she wont talk to me. I try to, and she'll respond with a smile, but she wont actually talk to me. Often at family shin digs (family pictures, birthday, holiday dinner) I wont get a word out of her. I can't tell if she's scared of me or if she just doesn't care.

This latest attempt kind of stung - I stuck my neck out and transparently stated I wanted to spend some quality time together. I'm trying not to read into it too much, but it seemed like time with me was a chore - which when I look back at any interactions we have, I can see that could be her perception. I want to get this to work. I'm not sure what to try next, I'd really love to have a good relationship with my mom. I've genuinely apologized for my actions as a kid a number of times, and I've been consistenly trying things like this in person or over messages for a few years now. I'm kind of at a loss.

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