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I hadn't taken my meds yet, and it was generally a foggy brain morning. I was already trying to decide what to do with the day when my husband asked.
Ladies, I seriously damn near cried cause I didn't know what to say and my brain went "MEEP!"
Thankfully, my husband recognizes these moments and reassured me I had all the time in the world to decide and gave me options, which was helpful.
The best part is when both you and your spouse have adhd.
Is that the case for you? I can't even imagine, must be hard especially if you are both overstimulated and need a break. But then maybe you really understand each other?
My husband has autism, and the structure he needs and builds helps me tremendously. He literally keeps me on track, it's like having a more organized brain I can borrow.
Yeah, I have just adhd, but she has adhd and is on the spectrum. It takes a lot of patience on both sides.
I can imagine, it must be rough at times. I hope that it's a happy union overall and that you complement each other.
I've done absolutely nothing today because I couldn't decide so I'm just in the boredom fog now.
It's been a few hours, did it get any better? I hope you found some dopamine along the way.
I know I get a bit less foggy as the day goes on (not a morning person:)). I had a coffee date planned for today, so it ended up giving some structure to my day, which is always a plus. But now I'm in the boredom fog toooooooo.
Hmm.. not really! Made tea but then jus napped on sofa after eating. Jus woke up..
Me every time I wake up from a nap:
Hahaha same
This is me anytime my husband asks me what I want to do or what I want to eat. Then I get upset when he gives me choices because then he wants me to choose. We have a system in place for the food thing now but some days it is a struggle. I'm sitting here right now trying to figure out what I want to do on this dreary cloudy rainy day. I am not feeling it today either.
Dreary days are the worst! They rob me of the last molecules of dopamine and serotonin I have floating in my head. Did you end up finding something to do?
I hear you on having some kind of system with your husband. Mine used to ask "What's the plan?" which induced panic and executive function chaos in me. Now he knows to ask a simple yes/no of "Do we have a plan?" And I know it's perfectly ok to say "no" or "I'm working on it" or "You plan something, and I'll tag along."
I spent half the day lost in my phone. 🙄 but I did manage to get the dishes done, a load of laundry and I somehow after that found the motivation to clear out one of the many doom piles in my living room. Just took me forever to get going. Made up for yesterday uselessness I guess.
For food decisions I tell my husband to assign a number to the choices and I just randomly pick a number. I also will use my d&d dice to make choices. Reduces my choice meltdowns considerably. 😊
I love the idea of using DnD dice! Turns it into a game, instantly makes me more interested. Also, you cleared out a doom pile‽ That's amazing! I'd say that's a productive day, especially considering you also did the laundry.
Now you gave me the idea of gamefying my cleaning tomorrow, assigning little areas/chores that need to be cleaned to numbers and then using my d20 to choose. I'm honestly kind of excited, lol.
One time I was tryna figure how to respond to something my boyfriend said and my brain would not give me anything, but I knew I had to respond so I said "Cheep cheep!" Of course I know that was the wrong thing, so I said, "Oh, I mean..." hoping that my brain would send me something but all it gave me was "Cheep cheep." Again, and then when I tried a third time again I had nothing but "Cheep Cheep" and I was starting to panic so I was getting anywhere and had to take a seat.
So all he got in response was "Cheep cheep, oh I mean Cheep cheep, no I mean Cheep cheep." And then he was just laughing as I sat down. I don't blame him, it was a funny response he wasn't expecting.
OK, I can't help but laugh at the "Cheep, Cheep" on the surface, but underneath I completely understand that frozen feeling when brain does not go brrrrrrrt like it's supposed to. Love how our brains can be brilliant and lightning fast sometimes and then totally shut down other times.
Edit; By "love" I'm being sarcastic... in case that wasn't clear
I'm just glad I'm not alone lol
Definitely not alone!