Non-monogamy

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For anyone who likes to draw outside the monogamous lines, ethically.

Whether you are polyamorous, in an open relationship, a swinger or just monogomish, this is the place for you.

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Relationship Anarchy Basics (thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/nonmonogamy

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cross-posted from: https://slrpnk.net/post/1882948

Insightful text on relationship anarchy with a focus on an asexual and/or aromantic perspective

What relationship anarchy hinges on the most, for me, is the equality it seeks to create across the relationship board, so that sexual relationships are not superior to nonsexual relationships and “romantic” relationships are not superior to nonromantic friendships, and that equality means that a nonsexual and/or nonromantic friend has the same amount of access to love, intimacy, physical affection, support, etc.

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[–] PostmodernPythia 2 points 1 year ago

If this is what you want, do it and make clear to everyone that that is what you are doing. The problem is when people decide this is the one true way to nonmonogamy, which ime, happens quite a lot. I like my hierarchy out where I can see it, thanks.

[–] Custoslibera 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Interesting concept.

The core idea of relationship equality regardless of sexual interaction/social expectations is a nice idea.

I wonder how practical this is in real life though.

Hierarchical relationships serve a practical purpose, they reduce cognitive burden, it’s difficult to not prioritise one person over the other.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

There are people that do it and thrive. The author seems really happy with it.

For some there might be a lot of self reflection necessary to actually live like that.

And maybe for others this might not be desirable at all.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Hierarchical relationships serve a practical purpose, they reduce cognitive burden, it’s difficult to not prioritise one person over the other.

Hmm atleast the authors does not think that individual relationships cant be prioritized over others. Like you would still choose with eho you prefer to do what, like living or going on vacations.

To me the author puts more weight on the rejection of classical relationship archetypes and their hierarchization