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Well first these are the frequent talking points of incels when they harp on what they consider “low value females”. If you find yourself constantly repeating such devaluing talking points, maybe a break from the internet would do you good. Secondly, and more generally, it is usually more attractive to talk about the things you love than the things you hate. Unless you have already established that you and the other person hate the same things, then you can bond over that too.
This. She probably wasn't disgusted by the content, but by the form of what he said.
I can almmost guarantee this is what it is. One of those isn't even a big deal. If I was single I wouldn't date a single mom, not because there's anything wrong with them but because I'm looking for a serious relationship, and I know I'm not emotionally ready to be a father and I know I never will be.
I don't want kids for that reason. I was raised by a single mom and have seen how difficult it is. Nothing but respect for all of them out there.
Yeah, I don't know why no dating apps. What's that about?
Probably something about the hookup culture? Strangest of the 3 imo
For sure. I met my now fiancee on a dating app, neither of us are into hookup culture. She's demisexual so it's actually the opposite for her and I'm just not interested in it. These guys are really huffing the 4chan sauce hard.
My boi here knows how to hold a conversation.
A skill OOP seems to be severely lacking in
Don't bring object oriented programming into this.
Incels? there are plenty of family men that think this way. They stuck to their preferences and have a much better life for it. We shouldn't marginalize them for it and give them names that don't make any sense also being afraid to speak about preferences is not good.
If an incel becomes a family man, he isn't an incel anymore. It's part of the definition of incel. Also, they don't have a better life for it, but a better life despite it (if they even have a better life, incels tend to sabotage their own happines). And you say we shouldn't marginalise men,but it's okay to marginalise women?
not having positive preferences to look for but instead having multiple dealbreakers suggests that all women are functionally the same to you except for the ones who you think are lower quality.. that is to say, you are not meaningfully valuing other people
Deal breakers are things that are limits. Limits are--in general--a good thing. It's not that you're saying that women--or people in general--are fungible, but you're saying that people that fit any of these criteria won't work.
IIRC, Dan Savage has said that there's no settling down without settling. You can--should--have limits, but if it's more than five things, you need to look at yourself very, very closely. You aren't going to like every single thing about your partner, but you have to be able to accept them.
I could say, for instance, that I prefer people that are heavily tattooed, pierced, scarred, branded, and implanted. (...Which limits me to about .0001% of the US population.) But that's not a deal breaker; I'm not going to reject someone because they don't fit that particular preference, even though my body modification is important to me. On the other hand, I absolutely will not date anyone that doesn't have a worldview that's grounded in reality, e.g., is religious/"spiritual", or believes in any conspiratorial nonsense, because I couldn't have respect for a person like that. THAT'S a deal breaker. I won't date someone that wants children; I'm unfit to be a parent, and I had myself sterilized a number of years ago. Again: that's a deal breaker, because as with religious garbage, it's a question of basic values.
But when people ask for your preferences they want to know your actual preferences (the positives), not the dealbreakers.
For example, if I asked someone out to lunch and asked what kind of food do they prefer (their preference) then I don't want to hear a list off all the foods they dislike.
Meanwhile women: 6 foot, 7 figures, 8 inches or move along.
I'm imagining he was an obese single dad scrolling Tinder as he was telling her this.
Spends countless hours on 4chan. He must be an emotionally intelligent, sensitive go-getter!
Was she an obese single mom who had met your friend on tinder?