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Welcome to our virtual third place, The Café.

Come on in and make a new human connection over a cup of coffee (or Teh Tarik). This is a casual community, do whatever you want, share your oyen pics, your frustrations, and even organize a weekend picnic with the community. The world is your oyster.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Btw, I finally decided to commit to learning Japenese since my friend wants to take N4 JLPT. I'm not sure whether I want to take the exam yet but I shouldn't rot for too long so I decided to study together.

I stopped studying Japanese after I started working and thereafter I relied on informal learning but it wasn't moving things fast enough.

Don't worry the bot is still otw o7 ~~i just have a fear of manually testing my own code~~

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Do you learn to read and write too? Or is focused on conversation?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Learning N4 level Japanese in general haha. I can read and understand a lot because I know more kanji than N5 level and I've been listening to a lot of videos in Japanese and watching anime. But I'm certainly still at the beginner level.

I'm better at writing than speaking because it gives me time to think and look up words.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Good luck! I'm still learning after decades 😭

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I've been learning for a long time too lol. I knew the very simple stuff since high school, but I never really learnt much until the past few years.

It's actually pretty hard to learn without an accountability partner. Back when another friend of mine was studying for N4, I was studying too(N5), but I stopped halfway.

Informal learning is also a great way if you're not preparing for JLPT. I can somewhat communicate if I'm not writing in formal Japanese, albeit with very limited prose.

I should revisit akiyama ryohei sensei's videos on Japanese grammar.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's true, you definitely need some kind of partner, I'm mostly stuck at N4 level but it's still annoying that spoken/vernacular Japanese is different enough that my comprehension is worse than French, and I only learned that much later, and written Japanese is generally a challenge because I didn't grow up with Chinese literacy skills lololol. All these years and I still have the real world level of a toddler imo haih

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah, written and spoken Japanese are quite different especially if it's among friends. XD I think I'm somewhere around the end of A2 in marugoto. I stopped at A2-4 which is actually halfway of N4, but I've forgotten lots of terms that I normally don't use and informal language doesn't help me with grammar exercises haha

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

On leave today to settle a few things at home.

So nice to lie down on the cool living room floor with ceiling fan on, in the quiet of a weekday.

Fell asleep for about 15 minutes until the contactor rang my doorbell.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Woah, okay, so Mali gov is reclaiming the .ml domain which mean lemmy.ml will be gone as well. I wonder if they can just rehost whatever they have into a new domain

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

from what I heard, it won't me easy, but it would be one real stress test for federation. hopefully, we don't have to block them out while they're migrating. I wonder if perhaps it would be better for them to just start over with a clean slate.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (4 children)

It would be hard to restart i believe, they have to rebuild the communities and all that.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Today's r/place hate for Reddit's CEO is real, especially from r/de

Spez, du Hurensohn!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (4 children)

whoa!

It;s not really good idea to go join because reddit is trying to bolster its activity to look good unless you're still holding on to reddit and trying to make it work fuck spez

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Going through my old stuff and found my ex’s break up letter to me. Legit couldn’t remember anything about it, I think I was too afraid to read it.

I hate how even in the break up letter she managed to gas light me after admitting that she had anger issues and that she hurt me and my family.

In some ways I have also achieved a bit of closure. I was under the impression she’s got zero remorse when she ghosted me 7 years ago. Younger me just didn’t know about my self-worth and didn’t know how to establish boundaries.

Also found some of the gifts that I gave her (she returned it during one of the “breakups”), including a Fujifilm Instax and some film. Wanted to chuck it but I think I could use some cold hard cash by selling it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

How does one stay sane when things are just impossible to finish? I'm tired of getting gaslighted by management.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

There there ( ・_・)ノ(._.`)

Do your best, because tomorrow saturday haha

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My brain ady holiday mood weh, past few days OT dy now don't feel like crunching already.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Today balik on time and sleep early then. If boss ask just say got dinner, and if he wanna argue, stare at him like this ( ≖_≖)

🙈

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Tell me the result later 🙈

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Nah I'll prolly just bolt out XD

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The millipede is having a gathering 😌

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (6 children)

You can't just say that without giving tax.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

FUCKING GELIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Cute what 🙈

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Aiyo my mom made an Instagram account

And she just followed me.

What do I do? I don't want her to meddle in stuffs I'm doing. it's young people stuff that doesn't necessarily in line with what they're hoping for in their child.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Time to make another one that's private with less traceability. Even the email you use to make the new one should not be tied to any accounts. Don't link phone number so IG won't use contact list to add you.

After this, pay attention to when you or your friends talk about IG. You don't want friends to mention "that funny story you put up last week" and have your mom hear it only to wonder why she didn't see it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Move to pixelfed haha.

But yeah gotta have an alt now. One of the reason i quit fb because i have my mom and siblings in my friendlist, and i just doesn't want my personal online life to be seen by my fam lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You're more experience in this and have more detail 🙈

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Oh don't worry, it'll be overtaken soon because I'm a technical noob pun hahaha

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

If you're going to do another alt insta, might as well try another fediverse analogue and get a Pixelfed. At least it's not Facebook who's going to add your new alt and its new alternate email to their profile of you, that will just kantoikan you eventually.

ETA: if you don't want to move, stop posting on main and just use stories and only post to your close friends filter. Or soft block ur mum so she unfollows you

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Additional info on Pixelfed - upcoming features is tiered access to your posts; so a bit like fb flist, so if she ever finds u again, you can have real public posts and posts she'll never see

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I see. Which community to join in pixelfed?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I would've recommended my instance which is metapixl.com but I'm also shopping around as I'm not sure if I want to stay there, but it's decent enough (having issues with the alt-text character limit but otherwise it's fine). The flagship is pixelfed.social which is huge now but they do get first round of stable releases, but regardless there's a list here https://pixelfed.fediverse.observer/list - filter by signups to yes. Most of them are general instances so other than the non-english one I don't think there's a problem to pick. ETA: oh wait! Check their abouts, some of them allow nsfw content (which shouldn't be a problem until u check local feed)

ETA: I would recommend metapixl.com regardless because they offer the cushiest amount (max 20 pix; caption length is max 2k characters; most others will put about 5 pix with max caption of 500 chars)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

@cendawanita not all is well with firefish.

I really hope we do not see a repeat of that phoenix ➡️ firebird ➡️ firefox saga that mozilla had.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Lol, that was quick. Should call waterfish instead 🙈

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Aha! Lol i was reading up on it -- there's some legal leeway imo but otoh one of my fedi mutuals (a futual??) mmg long time low-key sideeye the whole rebranding for management history issues (and tbh they're the only reason I even am this up to speed with the various interplays of the various players)!

It'll be interesting to see what happens next. The biggest booster is a Canadian but he's not actually a dev for this. The actual dev is barely 20 yo tak silap (si kainoa tu). Most of the crew aren't corporate or corporate-trained, so lagilah kalau terkena anything I also dk (eta: like related to when FB approached some of them to berdiskusi pre-Threads launch; most of these guys... tak pernah kena tipu, is all I'll say about it). Hopefully the power and privilege of being European is gonna help somehow.

We should totes recommend ikandipecat tho 😆

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