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Tradwives Are Doing Conservatives’ Work for Them (msmagazine.com)
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[–] breadsmasher 70 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

Why do conservatives want to set ~~fashion~~ society back 70 years? To wear some pompous dress?

Remember in the 50s when no one got divorced? Instead -

Husbands would go to work all day in the city, wife at home with the kids. He has to “work late”, stays over in his secret second apartment to bang his mistress. His wife leaving a dinner made on the side, to go to waste.

She has to have a stiff upper lip, pretend she doesnt know whats going on.

He comes home the next day. Stinking of booze and cheap perfume. Not his wifes, but she knows it anyway - he comes back regularly with that smell.

After slamming multiple whiskeys, he gets handsy. He wants his wife.

“No” is not in his vocabulary. She is his wife. He can do as he pleases.

She pulls away, slightly. He grabs her and back hands her. She needs to learn her place

This is the world tradwives and republicans want to go back to.

[–] Etterra 15 points 2 months ago

Life is hard and the being a ~~sugar baby~~ slave is easy.

It's just another example of how conservativeism is fucking stupid.

[–] asteriskeverything 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I agree with all of this but don't bring fashion into it. Those 50s housewife dresses are gorgeous, flattering for all shapes and sizes, and been a staple in the commercial alt fashion scene for decades! So I can understand how it crosses political divide lol

Please not the mandatory heels and hair though. Mandatory anything.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Please not the mandatory heels and hair though. Mandatory anything.

...But that's the whole point, isn't it? They want to make this mandatory for all women, not an affirmative choice.

No one gives a shit if you choose to be a trad wife, as long as it's a choice, and not something that's being requried.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

They don’t think of it this way. They only think about the movies and TV shoes. Plus, it’s a path to be an influencer, which to some seems glamorous.

It’s ridiculous and harmful but personally I don’t think they’ll understand that until they’ve experienced it. And I don’t doubt that many already have, but they don’t know how to leave.

[–] [email protected] 55 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Okay, so, just reacting to the headline, here:

Is it not understood that tradwives are, in fact, a type of conservative?

[–] SkyezOpen 3 points 2 months ago

Uhhh... Yeeees but also not exactly. Women can stay at home and cook/clean/childcare without claiming the title of "tradwife" even though that's basically what she's doing. I guess stay at home mom would be the politically neutral term.

What sets these handmaids apart is that they're peddling this domestic servitude bullshit to the masses.

[–] anywho 25 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (3 children)

In most cases it just seems like some BDSM roleplay fetish.

[–] CitizenKong 18 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Yeah, these women seem to have a closeted submission kink that they mistake for a political opinion. They would probably be much happier in a consensual BDSM relationship instead of looking for misogynist men to fulfill their delusional fantasy of a realistically impossible lifestyle.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Seriously. It seems like its all of fetish thing mixed in with traditional lying on social media. Seems like a great way to get money from dumb men

[–] sudo42 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Wait. There are not hundreds of sexy single women in my area ready to have sex with me right now?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

That one is true. Everything else is a lie

[–] CptEnder 4 points 2 months ago

Lol yeah it's just a breeding fetish they stumbled into

[–] Etterra 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'll bet tradwives wouldn't be so happy with their lot in life if their fathers had sold them for 30 shekels and a goat.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Can't get much more traditional than that.

[–] CrayonRosary 7 points 2 months ago

I like to pronounce it "trudwife" so it sound just like the "trad-" in traditional.