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[–] SatansMaggotyCumFart 122 points 5 months ago (9 children)

My parents are wonderful and supportive and I wish everyone could experience this.

[–] [email protected] 61 points 5 months ago (2 children)

That was extremely thoughtful and wholesome of you, SatansMaggotyCumFart.

[–] SatansMaggotyCumFart 14 points 5 months ago

Just like that salad tossing Stephen.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

Is that what the other site would call a RimjobSteve moment?

[–] [email protected] 27 points 5 months ago

Sometimes my heart wants to resent people like you for having supportive parents, but that's coming from an hurt and irrational part of me that's valid, but not useful to listen to. I'm glad that people like you and your parents exist, and I'm glad for your comment here, because even though I'm a long way away from my parents, it's useful to be reminded that my experience was not normal and it wasn't okay. Thanks for helping remind me and hopefully others that we deserve(d) a safe family home

[–] [email protected] 17 points 5 months ago

So are mine but living with them can still be mentally taxing.

[–] TotallynotJessica 11 points 5 months ago

Same. They always tried their best to give me the childhood they wish they had; to avoid passing on trauma they experienced. The cycle can be broken.

To any future parents who had traumatic childhoods, just know that you can give someone else what you deserved. You aren't destined to become your parents. Your kids will appreciate having good parents once they grow up. It's hard not to once you learn about the pain most people experience.

[–] GeoGio7 9 points 5 months ago

My parents are lovely and supportive but they're old and cranky and neurotic too. Because I live at home I'm always involved with family drama and seeing their health deteriorate is also stressful.

[–] Blyfh 4 points 5 months ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Same, but now my brother has our retired father and I have our mom.

It's not perfect, but my dog loves having a human around all day.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago