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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.

Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on

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What thoughts/memories did you have before coming out, in hindsight, are big signs you were trans? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I feel that I should preface this by warning questioning people that looking for signs is generally not a good way to find out if you're trans. Different people experience being trans in different ways.

Thank you lady_scarecrow for the above disclaimer. Very good advice ❤️

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Some advice on waiting to commit: don't wait to figure out your gender to do X; wait until you're confident you want to / would benefit from doing X to do X, regardless of if you've figured out your gender. And if the risk is low, maybe just try it anyway.

I waited a while to start HRT because I was worried I might not really be a girl, and I'm actually still unsure. But that's not the right question, the question I should've been asking was if I thought it'd help me vs the risk of being wrong, and I had known for a long time it would almost certainly be a huge net positive. I started 3 months ago and my only regret is not trying sooner, especially since I knew back then too.

Basically, don't gatekeep yourself behind gender.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Oh thank you for this! I definitely want to actively explore further, and I don't really think of it as gatekeeping myself behind the right label.

It's mostly me being conscious and afraid of making decisions that have a lasting impact, like coming out (even if it's just about the fact that I'm figuring things out). Physical changes that can't easily be reversed are still a ways away.

But I will try to take your advice to heart and allow myself to take some steps. There's always the option of chickening out, right?