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Research says involuntary celibate men make "fundamental errors" about what women want in a partner.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I think your core problem is that just because women are different you think that must mean they are somehow less valuable.

It is a completely reasonable position to think most men are different to most women at least in some ways.

To think the way men bond and the way women bond to be the same is completely misguided. Sure you could do it the same and you could have relationship that are built the same. But I haven't roughhoused with my female friend or called them half the things I called my male friends.

Historical issues are no reflection of present issues. So if men need something, doesnt have to be this in particular but assuming they do need something, if women have indirectly suffered from it now men are not allowed that ever again? Why do women get women only places but men can't, if we are so equal as you make out?

I don't know why you are making out women are treated like objects. That is not the case at all you just pulled that out your arse to try win an argument. I've been friends with boys and girls my entire life. Just had female friends, had mixed groups and had men only friendship groups. The men only friendship groups have been a lot different and a lot more supportive so I think men need them. But apparently men needing anything in life is a crime. See how the incels are right with some things?

[–] AnalogyAddict 0 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Women can roughhouse to bond. They do it all the time. But that isn't what I'm talking about, and you know it. Apparently having female friends hasn't taught you much about broader dynamics of women's issues.

Women get women only places to be SAFE from men, not because they can't handle men having access to power. The premise is very different. For example, I'd have no problem with men having male-only gyms if they were so afraid of being sexually attacked by women they couldn't work out in peace.

The problem isn't men needing anything, so you can take that poor pity cap off and get out of the corner. The problem is men expecting everyone else to supply them with what they need because any other option doesn't even cross their mind.

If you seriously think women aren't largely treated as objectives, your head is so far in the sand, there's no hope of me digging it out. Good luck to you.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

They can roughhouse to bond, but they don't generally, not as much as boys. Also girls and boys don't roughhouse as well together because guys are much stronger and go a lot further.

You are massively over exaggerating the rate of men on women crime in a gym. That low rate isn't reason enough.

This is the problem you can't see men need anything. That's the whole point! That's it right there, you just keep proving my point. All you can see is women need x so that must mean men need nothing. That's not fair. I haven't once stated women don't need anything, I have nothing against women having female only spaces but in the spirit of equality men should equally have their own private spaces because they need them too. This is why there are women's only refuges for domestic violence but when one gets set up for men it gets protestors outside of it and it get closed down. Men aren't allowed anything they need.

No I don't think women are largely treated as objects you just got a victim complex. Women can be and are treated as objects but not largely. I am also able to see that is a problem in society, but unlike you I'm also able to see that men have issues in society which is an incomprehensible concept to you for some reason.