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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well that all sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through it. First of all, avoid working towards perfection. Those Insta mums who sip a magic whilst doing some Dawn seaside yoga have help at home garanteed. Your job is to keep them alive, that should be the only goal.

Second of all, dads on every fucking nappy during the day! What he’s in leave and not doing anything? Bullshit. It’s his kid too!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I have to remind myself multiple times a day the other women I see have family, paid help, etc. It’s so hard! I’m a very driven person and I love looking after my baby but it’s also not intellectually stimulating at all haha. I need my projects!

Yeah it’s so weird because he was really good for ages. I didn’t have to ask for things. He would do things for me and look after me. Then it hit a point somewhere where I’m like, literally having to ask basic things like if he can please do the nappy change or take him so I can sleep in. And I think that’s why it got to a yuck place because I’ve also been confused as to why/how/when things changed. We still need to have a bigger talk about That.