Somewhat disagreed: the lack (or lousiness) of physical security doesn't somehow magically make self-hosting work worse. Given I live in the middle of nowhere in an average house for the area, I can pretty much live the doors unlocked when I go out. Alternatively, if I live in some fancy neighborhood in a fancy house, I likely need some security system.

As for self-hosting, it's more convenient in the long term, I think. "We change our terms of service, and now require the soul of your firstborn" -- idgaf; "unavailable due to legal reasons" (tnx, tailscale, much appreciated you giving 0 notice, not that I'm salty about it or anything) -- idgaf; internet outage -- idgaf; and so on. Well, you may need to invest into duplicating critical infrastructure like password managers or the VPN host, but that's a relatively small price to pay, IMO.

And for loosing the contact, a couple of those I care about agreed to move the communication to matrix... So, it feels like friends who don't consider talking to you on platforms other than snoopbook despite them requiring little to no PII (signal is a bit of an exception here, but that have a relatively good track record) aren't too much interested in talking to you as a whole. And, well, should you be interested in talking to them in return? Although, I'm admittedly quite comfortable alone, and more extraverted (or less schizoid) folks may still feel uncomfortable with that course of action.