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Pitch actually doesn't matter too much. Like others in this thread have said, resonance is way more important.
For example, it's actually really difficult for me to talk in my old voice, because I haven't used it in such a long time. While I can get the pitch down if I try hard enough, I can't do the same for my resonance, so my voice still sounds somewhat feminine even when I'm talking in a low pitched voice.
I never practiced for a set amount of time. I'd just do it kind of randomly whenever I felt like it. Usually I would practice at night when I was having trouble sleeping, but I'd sometimes do it while driving as well.
Also random hot tip: Have a word that you can say really well in your feminine voice that can be worked into any sentence, such as um or like, because then you can use it to recalibrate when you feel your feminine voice starting to falter.
Just as you say - if I concentrate I can (sometimes) get a really good bright sound, but maintaining it is going to take a lot of practice so I can do it without thinking. I like the idea of a "reset" word; I'm going to try that going forward.
Something you might benefit from is practicing with an "increased cognitive load" - basically doing something that uses your brain while also speaking. It can be difficult at first, but eventually, it helps with being able to use your voice without thinking about it.