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I used to have some similar introspective thoughts.
Your conclusions will certainly differ from mine, but maybe you'll identify with some of my thoughts. You definitely lean further away from "male" than I do, but here's what I landed on:
I'm male, I've never been uncomfortable with that (not saying YOU shouldn't be if you are). Rather, my hurdles took the form of other people reacting adversely when I do or say something "girly".
My mom loves to recount the fact that I wanted to wear skirts as a kid, and I was bullied for being too "gay" in middle school.
At some point though I just kinda stopped caring about people reacting that way. I'm me, I'm a guy, and maybe that comes with an asterisk. Who cares?
I never felt that "boy" was incorrect. Rather, I just always knew that it didn't have to mean whatever it meant to everyone else. Being told that my being male is incompatible with certain aspects of me always confused me. Because I'm making it work, aren't I?
If someone has to ask (with me they really don't, my appearance is not at all ambiguous), I tell them I'm a straight guy. It's accurate in most of the ways that matter to me, and to anyone who might be asking.
But that in no way locks me into adhering to the expectations of what other people think that means.