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I don't really feel compelled to engage with such a bad-faith argument but i'll humor you a bit.
Followed by 2 links that... don't talk about suicidal ideation but instead about no longer feeling dysphoric.
And then the poster goes on to claim that somehow this reduces suicidal ideation in children who may be trans. This entire section does nothing to address the fact that reaffirming a trans child's gender does, in fact reduce suicidal ideation in trans children. Obviously If a child isn't trans, they won't feel suicidal if they're not allowed to transition.
Just because a thought is well worded and lengthy, does not mean it's worth listening to.
But just because you don't think it's worth listening to, doesn't mean it should be banned.
Ban outright spammers and attackers like this - https://lemmy.world/u/darknightfggot (I don't know if his posts are still visible, I blocked him) but don't try to ban ideas just for apparent wrongthink.
"white collar" or "clean" bigotry is still bigotry. Someone doesn't need to shout slurs at every possible moment to spread hate and attack people's identitie s or rights to exist.
Bigotry does not need to be tolerated full stop. It doesn't matter how much someone dresses it up to appear palatable or how much someone claims they're "just asking questions/just want a respectful debate" when the topic is someone's immutable identity and right to medical treatment.
I don't want to participate in this conversation, but I want to leave a note for any people who may be casually scrolling this thread, reading the exchange, and wondering how you feel about it.
You are witnessing, in real time, a technique that has been popularized by alt-right influencers like Ben Shapiro and Stephen Crowder as a means to be racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic/etc online and then play the victim when people get mad about it.
The first step is to post something that at first glance seems rational, logical, and supported by facts, which portrays a particular minority group in a bad way. There are lots of these kinds of "arguments" available all over the web, and I'm willing to bet the "well thought out" comment that got the above user banned was mostly copy/pasted. It's similar to the "despite making up X% of the population, black people cause Y% of crime" thing you see posted from time to time, as @[email protected] mentioned. They often use real facts and data, but typically skewed or taken out of context to push a particular agenda.
The next step is ideally to have someone from that minority group get mad and call them a bad word. Then they can sit back, sip their tea, and say, "See? I told you that gays/jews/trans/blacks/whatever are the REAL bigots! I'm just trying to have a conversation and they start calling me names and banning me."
In cases like this, where @[email protected] is attempting to call them out in a civil tone, they play the "you're just mad because you don't agree" card. Or the "you didn't provide a master's thesis counterargument" card. Or the "I never actually said a slur so how is it hate speech" card. No matter what you say to them, no matter how you try to approach the "argument", they will twist it around so that you are wrong. They'll keep doing it until you finally lose your cool, which goes back to the first step.
In the worst case, no one takes the bait and they get ignored. But even this is still a win, because it means they get to spread their hateful propaganda freely. And a lot of times there will be casual onlookers, with no strong feelings about the matter, who see the exchange and think, "Hmm, that person is being civil and reasonable and all these pro-trans people are getting angry and calling them names. Maybe they're right, and trans people ARE all mentally unstable. I'm going to save their 'well thought out' comment for later." And so it spreads.
Call it gaslighting, call it trolling, it doesn't matter. Think of it like this. Imagine two young brothers riding in the back seat on the way to Disneyland. The older brother is tormenting the younger brother by poking him constantly. "Mom! He's poking me!" says the younger. "Stop poking your brother" says the mom. So what does the older brother do? He puts his finger right in front of the younger brother's face. Not quite touching him, but close enough to be extremely annoying. "Mom, he's still bothering me!" says the younger. "No, I'm not actually touching him" says the older, laughing. Finally, the mom has had enough. She turns the car around and says the trip to Disney is cancelled. The older brother, now furious, points at the younger brother: "LOOK WHAT YOU DID!"
The exchange you're looking at is basically the grown-up version of the big brother in the backseat. They don't want to have a discussion. They don't even want to argue. They just want to piss of whichever minority group they hate, without technically breaking any rules ("I'm not actually touching you!"). And then, if they do get banned, they move on to the next space and say "Those out-of-control gays/jews/trans/blacks/whatever banned me from the last forum, but I'm sure THIS forum actually supports free speech and honest discussion. Did you know that despite making up X% of the population..."
Unfortunately, the best thing you can do is ignore them and hope the moderaters clean them out. It becomes a problem on big sites like reddit where mods are already swamped with thousands of other issues. But hopefully in the federated world, communities will mostly stay small enough to be manageable.
Thank you for writing this. I was almost roped into writing an at-length response to the "reasonable" comment, because it's all canned "Gender Critical" arguments I've seen and debunked a thousand times before, but it would've been an incredible amount of effort that would've been wasted because they'd just respond to me with an even longer and more specious comment, or ignore me.
Yeah, I'm sure that kind of "polite instigation" has been used for as long as civilization has existed. It's damn effective.
Sad part is, I imagine there are some people who genuinely aren't meaning to be hateful, but get caught in the trap and inadvertently spread those same talking points. And like you mentioned elsewhere in the comments, when you rely solely on top-down bans to remove the potential dickheads, it does start to seem pretty authoritative. It's a tough problem.
But like you said, hopefully the ability for horizontal movement among other instances will allow for more "peer moderation." I like how someone else in this thread put it: "it's not alt accounts, you just walked into the wrong bar to start picking this fight."