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- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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So full disclosure: I am not trans but I have a legitimate question. Why is there so much pressure on trans people to put themselves into one box or another? Isn't the recognition of gender fluidity supposed to free people from sex-based boxes and social norms? This is not me saying at all that people shouldn't be able to express themselves as they want or shouldn't be able to identify in whatever way makes them most comfortable, but I find it hard to reconcile these two sides to what I see as the same coin. Maybe you could provide some perspective to me? I wish you the best and hope you get some good answers from people much more knowledgeable than me!
@sh00g I'll be cutting this into parts since I have to work with mastodon's word limit
if there is any error I made in a concept I'm trying to express or something that wasn't clear let me know so I can correct or clear it up.
The reason I see a lot of pressure, more often than not from the outside of the LGBTQ+ or Trans community, to fit into certain categories is bec I find cis people often have certain pictures or expectations of how or what a trans person should be; basically I find the reason there’s this pressure is bec cis people are often trying to create boxes to understand being trans in their terms and not trying to understand it from a trans perspective.
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Keep in mind this is me pulling from my experience, I live in Tennessee currently, so people aren't great about LGBTQ+ issues most of the time.
I saw a mention earlier in one of the responses about how having the box/label “trans” gives us a belonging and a community, and I agree with this. The boxes or labels aren’t always the issue, it’s how and why they got there, and the act of rejecting a box forced upon us and choosing a box that better fits us is an act of freedom.
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this is also not even including gender expression which also plays a role in these boxes/labels, bec that determines how your precieved usually, so this is quite a cut down summary to try to explain the concept.
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It appears as if your base assumption is that by being trans one has to reject any binary choice or box/label(a case being transwomen and transmen for example), at least from my perspective and knowledge, by accepting we’re trans we’ve already done that – by accepting we’re trans we have rejected the “biological” binary put upon us from birth. 1/?
So then we go to the next step, where in the trans spectrum do you fit? This is where you start discovering whether your nonbinary, a transwoman, or transman, etc… basically another set of labels or boxes at least socially.
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